The Snow Globe Theory

As a Behavioral Medicine Psychologist, I spend the majority of my time working with individuals who have chronic pain.  Chronic pain falls under the category of what we refer to as an invisible disability.  It is estimated that approximately 100 million people in the United States have chronic pain [International Association for the Study of Pain]. A person may look just fine on the outside, but may be struggling severely day to day.

Invisible disabilities are difficult for others to understand. As I’m educating people, I often explain it like a snow globe. You may walk by and think, “How pretty!  This scene is picture perfect!” What you don’t realize is that someone had come by a few minutes earlier and shook the hell out of that snow globe. Imagine all those tiny, falling, glittering flakes representing something a person with chronic pain or chronic illness struggles with on a daily basis: keeping a job, managing their children, sitting, standing or walking for any length of time, activities of daily living, socializing, romantic relationships, giving up activities he or she previously enjoyed doing, problems sleeping, and for some people, a significant impact on their mood.

Usually, the first thing people ask me is why they would see a psychologist for chronic pain. Do I think the pain is all in their heads? No. But, I do know pain affects everything and everything affects pain.  Understanding the thoughts and feelings that go along with chronic pain helps people cope better.  Working with a psychologist or other behavioral health specialist can help you learn new self-management strategies to reduce the intensity of your pain and learn about factors that can increase and decrease your pain.

If you’re struggling with chronic pain, don’t lose hope. Keep communicating and stay proactive about your health. Talk with your medical providers about the right action plan for your care to encompass a whole health perspective.

 

 

Make New Friends, Get Healthy

There are still a few spots left for my 60 Day PiYo Challenge starting November 1st. We have such a positive group so far! Join us to get healthy, motivate one another, and crush your health and fitness goals-All from your own home.  I will coach you through the workouts.  This is affordable, fun, and you’ll connect with some great new people on similar journeys.  PiYo works for women AND men, so everyone is welcome!

So, what do you need to do?

Visit:

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Choose either only the DVD set, or the Challenge Pack with the Shakeology (If you choose the chocolate, I’ll give you my chocolate covered strawberry recipe–so good!!).

Send me an email at balancebflo@gmail.com with your preferred email address and I’ll add you to our private challenge group.  Add the app on your phone, and get ready to get motivated, have fun, and learn PiYo.

Accountability leads to better results. Get on board with us!

 

 

Free Time

We had an amazing #Facebook event two nights ago to launch three new #skincare products. Not only am I excited to get these in the hands of my customers, I met some fantastic new people!

I added skin care and fitness coaching to my life because I wanted more time with my family. I was working six days a week, and I was exhausted. I also love working with and meeting people and hearing about what they want to accomplish.  Now, I’m building a business I love—something that encompasses inspiring health, wellness, and confidence inside and out.

This has given me more time to do things that I find to be rewarding. If this speaks to you, and you want to join me on either of these paths, please send me an email. I’m loving both companies and the freedom they are giving me. There’s no better time to be your own boss, and inspiring others is an added bonus!

http://dariley.myrandf.com/

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Energy

It’s no surprise that my business is called “Balance.” I talk with my clients about it every day. Work, Love, Kids, Pets, Fitness, Health, Socialization- how do we keep it all in check? One of the things that frequently comes up in my work is how to better manage relationships.

Emotional energy. We spend it every day. Lots of it. In healthy relationships, it is regularly replenished. You know how this feels. These relationships are easy; no drama.

The other relationships are more complex. You feel drained. Maybe even anxious. Emotional energy has been over-spent and not reciprocated.

Taking an inventory of where you’re spending your emotional energy is critical. Who in your life is taking too many of your resources? What relationship do you want to invest more of that energy into?

Think about your relationships and where your emotional energy goes. Prioritizing and realigning can make all the difference. If you can’t change some relationships (and let’s face it, sometimes we can’t) practice setting healthy boundaries that keep your reserve full. Don’t forget your most important investment of emotional energy-yourself!